Last week, I was talking about Dan, who had made the fatal mistake that every guy Top dates (or never actually dates) eventually makes.
They decide they want this big grand relationship. Out of nowhere usually.
This comes after Top has expressed from the beginning that she's just not interested in anything super serious.
She has recently come up with a plan to avoid this craziness.
She's now looking for an older man.
She's already said she'd be interested in dating an older man because they would hopefully have lived long enough to avoid some of the constant mistakes men in their 20s make.
She's hoping with more experience behind him, a man age 35-45 will have learned to let people be themselves without projecting what you think onto them.
She described this guy for me. He sounds pretty great.
I need a more experienced guy. We can have like a mentorship/friendship/romantic thing. Nothing too serious. No marriage. He has his own space, I have mine.
He's educated, successful, talented, gives back, cultured, enjoys travel, and trying new things.
Hopefully his experience would have taught him a level of acceptance of people and to suspend the "fantasy fairytale" of who people should be and how they should live.
The last part is something I keep running into, so that's a must. He'll be older, so he can teach me some things about work and life.
My guy can even be divorced; I can work with that.
So where will she find such a guy since she doesn't already know one like that?
Bad suggested she go to the Tribeca Film Festival in the spring in NYC. He said she's bound to meet a guy like that there.
I told her to go to a squash court at a gym. I honestly couldn't think of anything better.
This is new for Top. It's not like she's suddenly pursuing a man after 26 years of never really doing it.
It's just that she's considering placing herself specifically where she thinks she can find the type of man she wants.
This should be interesting to watch and see what happens.