Michelle's T.G.I.Fridays: More About The Older Man

***Michelle is a girl that grew up next door to me and we attended the same church. Now she's in her early 20s and living the single life. She goes on these dates that are either lovely or horrific. She's slightly terrified at the thought of committing to someone any time soon. And of course, she has the occasional man who really catches her eye and her heart.***

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My last post about Michelle was just a short update on what I knew about her love life, which wasn't much.

She read that post and filled me in on more stuff about the older guy. She asked that I not name him yet until we know for sure his lasting power. I would just name him for the alphabet dates, but that would be rude, at least for now.

So instead he just gets called the older guy. I'm fine with that for now. Because everyone else who got a blog name turned out to be useless, so this guy could be wort the wait.

The reason I didn't know all the details of Michelle's love life is because she works a lot. She has an internship she's doing this summer that works a lot of hours. It's for class credit. I believe it's required for her undergraduate degree (even though she already graduated) or it could be for her Master's. But the point is, it's right in the line of career training and could present a job opportunity for as soon as she's done with school.

But back to the love life. This older guy works a lot so usually when they hang out, it's her going to his house. It wouldn't be always that way if she wasn't staying at home with her father this summer. But he looks out for her. He even gave her gas money, which was nice.

The older guy is still getting used to the idea that Michelle is so much younger than the other women he's dates. He's 33, not 35 like I previously said. But still, there's a 10 year difference there and the most he's ever done before is 4 years. He's slowly adjusting and realizing the benefits of being involved with a woman not quite yet in her mid-20s.

1. There's no wedding itch. 2. There's likely to not be an ex-husband. 3. She's likely to not have yet experienced enough to leave her with a man-hating chip on her shoulder.

Michelle isn't trying to rush him to the altar and he is loving that. Loving it, you hear me?

But Michelle is still waiting to see if he's going to step up his efforts or leave them in this situation where they're fitting each other in when they have a chance. Building something real takes more than just your super free time, it takes commitment and mutual desire to spend more time together.

If this guy makes that turn into something more, he'll get a blog name. I just hope he makes it an organic move and doesn't decide tomorrow he wants Michelle to be his girlfriend. I hate when her guys do that. How about building a foundation guys? Not just having a girlfriend for the sake of the title. I guess hope that's the benefit of an older man.

Michelle's T.G.I.Fridays: Looking For A "School Boo"

***Michelle is a girl that grew up next door to me and we attended the same church. Now she's in her early 20s and living the single life. She goes on these dates that are either lovely or horrific. She's slightly terrified at the thought of committing to someone any time soon. And of course, she has the occasional man who really catches her eye and her heart.***

Quick Recap [The last time I wrote about Michelle, I was talking about the time period right before she went back to school. It's been five weeks since then. Wow, that's a long time. But Date B wanted her time and so did Michael. She had to split up her time before heading back to school carefully. So, how did it turn out?] Read the TGIFridays posts.

Well, she chose Michael. I'm not surprised by that. One could guess that from the fact that he has a name and not a date letter! But that was then and now I must tell a quick recap of the last five weeks.

Michelle has been back to visit the city twice since she went away to school. Stupid Michael! I say that because she's only seen him once. I don't know if him going to visit her isn't a option (I haven't asked), but when she's in town, why can't he make time to see her, especially when she gives days of notice before she gets here. He's definitely exhibiting behavior which is familiar to me. It's called he's-just-not-that-into-you behavior.

The person in me that always wants to give the benefit of the doubt doesn't want to completely down him. Maybe he is into her and he just doesn't know how to show it...? Maybe he's super sensitive and isn't really able to deal with the fact that she seems to be moving on into her life with or without him...? I don't know what it is. But I don't like hearing from her that he stood her up. Even if it does mean we get to get our Sex and the City on by having martinis at our favorite bar.

On to the point of the title of this post. Michelle is bored when it comes to guys. There isn't anyone at her school she wants to date. In fact, I don't think she's been on a date in the last five weeks. That Date B guy is out of the picture, he was a mess anyway. But at her school, there should at least be someone to flirt with and hang out with. But alas, tis not to be this semester. No new transfers, no one has gotten hot over the summer.

There was this one guy who flirted with her at the beginning. He was a guy in her major who she was having her first class with. She noticed him noticing her and noticed him too. Then she found out that he had a girlfriend. Who he had been with for a while. Who was pregnant. Which begged the question, "why are you flirting with me?!"

There was this other guy too, who happened to be the fraternity brother of the first guy. He likes Michelle; she sees him as just a friend. She's been enjoying the attention, but not wanting to encourage it by spending too much time with him.

So basically, she's having a lot of false starts. The semester is 1/3 over at this point and still no school boo. Her Chicago boo is sometimes full of crap, so Michelle's love life doesn't seem to awesome right now. But I imagine it will improve sooner rather than later. And even if it doesn't improve to the point of her having a guy, there will always be silly/crazy/funny stories to share.

Michelle's T.G.I.Fridays: Double Booking Just For Fun

***Michelle is a girl that grew up next door to me and we attended the same church. Now she's in her early 20s and living the single life. She goes on these dates that are either lovely or horrific. She's slightly terrified at the thought of committing to someone any time soon. And of course, she has the occasional man who really catches her eye and her heart.***

Quick Recap [I just introduced Michelle into my blogs a couple weeks ago and wrote about her love life on this one last week. I spoke of how she is pretty much happily single, but does enjoy dating. I talked about this date she went on that was horrible, soooo horrible. And I also mentioned a guy Michael. He's this guy she met in school and the one guy who has the best chance of winning her heart, if only he'd consistently try to win her heart. He does this infuriating combo of wanting to spend time with her and then pulling back because he's spending too much time with her when really all the time spent was his idea! Very infuriating, right?] Read Michelle's posts.

 
Michelle heads back to start her school year in two days. That makes me happy when it comes to Michael because he will be in Chicago and will probably switch to I-miss-you mode and therefore appear generally more interested in her. They're supposed to be going out at some point today because this will really be her last opportunity to see him before she's gone until either her birthday (Libra!!) or maybe just Labor Day.
 
But here's the twist. There is this other guy, who I'll call Date B, who also wants to see Michelle today. He knows she's about to head back to school, so he texted her last night (while we were having a girl's night at a great bar downtown) to request to spend time with her today. Michelle didn't immediately say no. She is supposed to share today between her cousins (Thing 1 and Thing 2), Michael, and finishing packing. Yet somehow, Date B is now going to be worked into the equation? I can't wait to find out how that ends.
 
So, Date B is this guy Michelle met through her Thing 1 and Thing 2. She spends a lot of time with her twin cousins because they are the same age and they all went to college together; the twins graduated last year. Date B is a friend of a "boo" of one Thing 1 (yes, I've assigned a specific twin at Thing 1 or Thing 2 AKA Chocolate Thunda). Michelle met him and immediately liked him for one reason alone: his looks. I completely understand this. We all have that one person we can remember being sooo into, but acknowledging it wasn't based on anything but their God-given beauty. She and this guy don't have any sort of deep connection, but she likes spending time with him. I like being around pretty things too, that's why I like parks with lots of flowers and museums. Anyone can agree a date that will go no higher than a 7 or 8 on a 10-point scale, will always be made better by having your date be an exceptional piece of eye candy.
 
I'll let you know next week if she managed to squeeze all three obligations into her day, or if she ended up blowing off Michael for Date B (she did jokingly say that was an option).