Michelle's T.G.I.Fridays: Free And Clear In The New Year

***Michelle is a girl that grew up next door to me and we attended the same church. Now she's in her early 20s and living the single life. She goes on these dates that are either lovely or horrific. She's slightly terrified at the thought of committing to someone any time soon. And of course, she has the occasional man who really catches her eye and her heart.***

What.The.Fuck?! Why is it when men make a choice, and that choice isn't you, do they feel the need to keep some interaction?

That is a sentence in my last post about Michelle. That was two weeks ago.
 
In that post, I was happily explaining how all the worthless men in Michelle's romantic orbit had run their course.
 
They were not to be mentioned again, except in footnotes of unwelcome text messages.
 
Even the ones who would stay friends don't get full mentions because this blog isn't about her friends, it's about her love life.
 
I was looking forward to Terrence's return home for the Christmas holiday.
 
And it seemed like things were looking up. They hung out when he first got home and he was really laying it on thick.
 
He was talking about his idea for their near and distant futures together.
 
But Terrence wants a girlfriend.
 
Michelle doesn't want a boyfriend, especially not one who's about to be guaranteed away from home 99% of the time for the next four years.
 
What was the result of that? It didn't end well.
 
Which brings me back to the quote above.
 

What.The.Fuck?! Why is it when men make a choice, and that choice isn't you, do they feel the need to keep some interaction?

 
Terrence is not that kind of man.
 
He met this other girl at some point before he shipped off to boot camp.
 
When he came back, she was more into the idea of being his girlfriend than Michele was.
 
Apparently, the idea of dating one person at a time is foreign to Terrence.
 
It's just ridiculous because some of the things he was saying would suggest she wasn't so easily replaceable.

I guess acting neglectfully or acting completely interested to the point of making plans for years in the future might as well be interchangeable.

It netted the same result.

This is twice in a month that this has happened now. Michelle keeps attracting these guys who claim they want a serious relationship with her.

But it turns out is all they want is a serious relationship with someone. I'm not even sure the word serious applies here.

They just wanted a girlfriend. Any old chick could apparently fit into that slot.

If they ask one chick to be the girlfriend and she says no, somehow less than a week later, they have another girlfriend?

And not just any other girlfriend, it's some chick they also were talking to the entire time they were trying to make Michelle the girlfriend.

Somehow, they end up looking something other than genuine or sincere. They just look full of shit.

These guys are looking for an easy route, a girlfriend without the trouble of building a connection and relationship first. Yeah, that's gonna end well.

I have no idea what to expect for Michelle in the new year, but I hope there's nothing to do with guys who don't know what they want or guys who know what they want but don't take into account what Michelle wants or guys who are just generally full of shit.

Camille's Wishful Wednesday: The Mystery Man Is Still A Mystery

***Camille is a friend of mine I know from church. She is classified on another blog I read as a "hopeless romantic", and I think that describes her pretty well. I also think she's incredibly well-balanced and able to work on multiple parts of herself at once. She is a law student, a Sunday school teacher, and an all-around good person. She has some pretty concrete ideas about men and the type of man she'd like to end up with. But she's doing the in-my-20s-dating-follies thing as well.***

Yes, the mystery man is still a mystery.

I keep hearing more about him, but there have been no moves made to actually introduce him to Camille.

When I decide I'm going to set up two friends, I certainly don't go about it this way.

I don't mention one to the other and then talk about that person for weeks.

I would tell each person about the other to assess whether they have an interest in meeting each other.

But I guess Camille's friend is working on letting this guy know about Camille.

I hope she shares good stories, cause Camille is great.

I expect I'll have something concrete to report by next week because by then the friend will be back from Christmas vacation.

Christmas vacation was when she was supposed to assess his level of interest.

This has to be one of the longest setups in history, lol.

Tip Top Tuesday: When Will The Men Learn?

***My girl Top is unique and one-of-a-kind. This makes the story of her love life especially interesting. Just when you think you've got her figured, she makes an unexpected move. She's my career-minded friend who's always focused on self-improvement. She's also super-independent yet a closet nurturer. Read and learn how to be fabulous.***

Quick Recap [The last post I wrote about Top was a couple weeks ago. There was talk about Dan and talk about her work life. Nothing else worth mentioning was really going on in her love life] Read Tip Top Tuesday posts.

In the last couple of weeks, something interesting happened with Dan.

I'm not really sure how to explain it, but let's just say some people can't handle their alcohol.

They were out for drinks one night and he started expressing himself.

If you remember, Dan has a lot going on in his life right now, and he is not in a position to pursue her.

She's also not a position to be pursued. The last few months of blog posts, should tell you that. Top doesn't want or need a relationship with anyone right now.

So how do most men respond to this lack of desire for a relationship? Why, they get liquored up and declare they'd like a relationship with Top!

It never fails. Eventually, they all get to this point. I'm not sure what makes these guys think that liquid courage will make everything alright.

They think this in spite of the fact that they would have kept those thoughts to themselves while sober.

So Top let him know that he was asking for something that wasn't ever going to happen.

I think he got the picture. Since that happened, he hasn't been saying anything else about wanting to be with Top.