Michelle's T.G.I.Fridays: Girls Night Out Will NOT Be Cancelled For A Man

***Michelle is a girl that grew up next door to me and we attended the same church. Now she's in her early 20s and living the single life. She goes on these dates that are either lovely or horrific. She's slightly terrified at the thought of committing to someone any time soon. And of course, she has the occasional man who really catches her eye and her heart.***

Since I was super busy earlier this week and didn't get around to writing a post about Camille or Gloria this week, I'll write about our girls' night out on Michelle's day.

We had dinner at Grand Lux Cafe downtown. I love that restaurant so much! We had a lot of fun talking and laughing and catching up.

We discussed plans for this upcoming New Year's Eve. Gloria let us know that she and Gregory were doing a family thing with their boys that night. Another of our friends and her boyfriend and doing a couples thing too.

The rest of us booed them and continued making our plans. We've got to figure out something. Michelle in particular expressed a desire to have a fun New Year's Eve because she's hasn't had one in a while.

After dinner, I wanted us to go out somewhere for drinks and maybe dancing so we could attract some men. But everyone was so sleepy that we just headed home. There used to a time when we never wanted to go home. Now everyone is concerned about a good night's sleep. I guess we're getting older and that's natural...

Michelle did hear from Michael last weekend though. He was upset that she didn't tell him she was coming to town. She told him she didn't think she had a reason to when he couldn't manage to make time for her the last weekend she was in Chicago which was her birthday weekend!

He was genuinely upset that she wouldn't change her plans to hang out with him or to include him in our girls' night. I don't know if she ended up seeing him before she left on Sunday, but I doubt it because we weren't done at church until almost 7 pm.

Why is it that men feel justified being upset when a woman behaves inconsistently when that inconstancy is a reaction to the man's fucking up in the first place??

The only reason Michelle didn't tell Michael she wasn't in town is because he was MIA her birthday weekend and then she didn't hear from him for weeks after that. And then he wanted her to change her plans to see him when he wouldn't do the same for her on her birthday weekend?! I just don't get it.

I'm all for second chances. But you have to draw the line when it's more like a sixteenth chance. I guess we'll see what happens. But when I pray for Michelle, one of the things I pray for is that she finds another guy to be her main focus. One who's not inconsistent, or engaged, or weird.